I’m a discipleship guy. Why? Because, without it, there’s little to no Christian transformation and the beautiful things it brings. So, I’m all about change and spiritual growth—mine and yours. But what is basic discipleship, and how can we be fruitful as we do it? And, what do we do when it’s not working out?

First, discipleship is about imitation: presenting something worth imitating and mimicking what is seen and heard. Jesus taught, modeled what He taught, tested, corrected, and sent as He discipled. He gave His disciples something good to imitate. Then, they did what Jesus did. Here’s an example from nearly 2,000 years ago, written by the apostle Paul to the Church in Thessalonica: “You also became imitators of us and of the Lord, having received the word in much tribulation with the joy of the Holy Spirit, so that you became an example to all the believers in Macedonia and in Achaia.” (Thessalonians 1:6)

Second, discipleship can be messy! It occurs when we walk with someone at their rhythm of life; their and our discipleship and spiritual growth must never stop. The disciple-discipler relationship develops the trust needed to share struggles, woes, and joys. Importantly, authentic discipleship ensures that you observe a disciple’s behavior and are prepared to answer questions or offer correction. This is where it can get messy. But discipleship doesn’t happen without it.

Third, discipleship isn’t for everyone, and most of these relationships will fail. Why? Most likely due to a lack of devotion to God or the discipleship process, which can be tough. So, what should you do if this happens as you disciple? Setting clear expectations about mandatory devotion to God and the discipleship relationship is essential. Then, hold the disciple accountable. But if they aren’t growing, showing up, studying, etc., it might be time to ‘cut bait.’ Ditch the spiritual dead weight and move on! “But Ron, the disciple is my friend! Are you saying I must end the friendship?” Absolutely not! Keep that relationship, but focus your discipleship efforts elsewhere. Jesus addressed this in Mark 6:7-13: “And He summoned the twelve and began to send them out in pairs, and gave them authority over the unclean spirits . . . And He said to them, “Wherever you enter a house, stay there until you leave town. Any place that does not receive you or listen to you, as you go out from there, shake the dust off the soles of your feet for a testimony against them.” They went out and preached that men should repent. …”

To recap, discipleship is about your speech and example, as well as others imitating what they hear and see. So, be someone worth imitating! And don’t get stuck in a dead-end discipleship relationship. There’s plenty for you to do, so move forward! Next week? You’ll finally meet two inspiring third-century martyrs worth imitating: Perpetua and Felicitas.

Blessings and peace,

Dr. Ron Braley